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How to Repair Broken Relationships in Recovery

Knowing how to repair broken relationships in recovery is a skill you will need to master. While it won’t happen overnight, with hard work and commitment, consistent, positive and healthy behaviors can help fix a relationship.

Once you’ve completed an addiction treatment program and have achieved sobriety, there are many things you can do to restore relationships, such as:

Completing Step 9 of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) or Narcotics Anonymous (NA)

If you are working through the 12 steps, you will eventually reach Step 9, which entails apologizing to those you have hurt and making amends. If you aren’t in a 12-step program, figure out other ways to atone for your mistakes. This could include paying people back after stealing money, getting a car fixed, paying legal fees, etc.

Going to couples or family therapy

Couples counseling and family therapy focus on repairing dysfunctional relationships and improving communication and conflict resolution skills. This is a good start for your most serious relationships.

Maintaining sobriety and work on rebuilding your life

If you’re able, you should endeavor to return to work if you lost your job. You should also focus on healthy hobbies, leaving behind any hobbies that could trigger a relapse. This means making a new, sober group of friends. Spending quality time with your family will strengthen your bonds and further demonstrate your commitment to recovery. Most of all, follow your relapse prevention plan and make your efforts very obvious to loved ones.

Taking responsibility for your actions

This is a big one. Acknowledging your mistakes of the past is part of the 12-step program. Make the rounds, visit those you’ve wronged, make sincere apologies, and ask for forgiveness from those you care about.

Making a commitment to remain trustworthy

Follow through with your promises and make it clear you’re doing so. Show up on time (every time) for plans, functions, events, and obligations. Do what you say you will do, and show your dedication to your new, sober life through your actions.

Learning (and practicing) good communication skills

Learn to communicate your needs calmly and effectively, and listen and respond to your loved one’s needs. This will likely be a whole new style for you. Remember the basics: make eye contact, avoid interrupting or redirecting the conversation to yourself, and refrain from passing judgment.

Keeping a journal

Sometimes confessing the mistakes you made while abusing substances will hurt your loved one even further. You might not want to disclose details that can cause pain and suffering, and you may also need an outlet for your emotions. Keeping a journal allows you to write down things you might not want to say to your friend or family member.

Staying active in the lives of your loved ones

Be an active participant in the lives of your children, spouse, and other loved ones. Take interest in their hobbies and pursuits, and offer support and encouragement. Spend quality time with them. Take long walks. Talk candidly. Open up to them like never before. It’ll take time but the reward is immeasurable.

How to Repair Broken Relationships in Recovery – It’s Not Going to be Easy

Since everyone knows that in reality, it’s hard to fix a relationship, remember that some friends might not warm immediately to the idea of having you back in their life. Don’t take it personally. They might only know the old you, the person living with addiction. You’re a different person now.

If your friend or loved one doesn’t want to meet face-to-face, try calling them. If that doesn’t work, try writing a letter or sending an email to initiate contact. Perhaps even reach out to them on social media. If you receive an encouraging response of any kind, continue the conversation until you feel it’s right to suggest meeting up to apologize and make amends. If not, give your loved one time to process the information and wait until they’re ready to connect with you.

Regaining trust after addiction takes time. People who suffer from substance abuse are often unreliable, break promises, and neglect responsibilities. Don’t become angry or frustrated if your loved one is hesitant to trust you. In some cases, the damage may be too severe to fix, and you may need to learn to accept that.

Honest Relationship Advice:

    • Be prepared to face resistance. Not everyone is going to be open and welcoming. Some family members or friends may be skeptical or unwilling to trust you again.
    • Put yourself in your loved ones’ shoes. They may be suffering from emotional, financial, or mental health problems as a result of your addiction. Try to be empathetic and understanding of their situation.
    • Be patient. It takes time and effort to return to the level of trust you had before abusing drugs or alcohol.
    • Learn to forgive yourself. You won’t be able to move on and build a positive and healthy relationship if you continue to carry around guilt about your past behaviors. You can’t change the past, but you can control your future actions.
    • Remember that you can only change yourself. You can’t change how other people perceive you. Focus on making improvements and re-establishing connections with others.

If you spend the time to learn how to repair broken relationships in recovery, it’ll be that much easier to put your plan into action when you’re ready to move in that direction. With persistence, candor, introspection and an open mind, you can help fix a relationship that you might’ve thought was beyond repair.

Get Treatment

If you haven’t gotten through recovery yet, it’s time to seek addiction treatment. At Renassaince Recovery, we offer a variety of therapy and treatment programs to help you overcome your addiction. These options include:

To learn more about how to repair broken relationships in recovery, or to enroll in our programs, call [Direct].

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Renaissance Recovery Coronavirus Policy Update

As the national pandemic continues to make it increasingly difficult for individuals to receive quality aftercare, The District Recovery Community & Renaissance Recovery has provided a solution to all those seeking long term care. We are proud to announce that we will be offering all aspects of our treatment including intimate groups, one on one therapy, and case management to individuals in all states from the comfort and safety of your home. This is a great option for clients that are in need of continued treatment, but are returning home to be with their families during this time.

The District Recovery Community and Renaissance Recovery will remain in operation during this time and continue to serve our mission of treating those suffering from alcoholism and addiction.

We encourage you all to reach out to learn more about how we can work together to ensure that our clients remain sober, safe, and continue to get the help that they need.